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Anonymous said: I live 6 hours away from my boyfriend and it's tough being far apart. I was so excited to come and visit, and the best part, we planned on losing our virginities to each other. So, as it was happening idk it sounds stupid but he couldnt get it in all the way, i mean it hurt like hell but i'm pretty sure he barely got it in there i wasnt expecting it to be perfect, esp since we're both virgins so the next day we tried again except in the shower cuz that's his fantasy. it was a nightmare....
he couldnt get it in and it hurt and i felt so weird and ugly being in the shower and we tried different positions but nothing worked. Idk i felt so embarassed and i felt bad for not being able to perform so i was crying half in pain and guilt basically he got frustrated and he was like “i think we should just stop” so we stopped and i just cried alot afterwards idk and he kept telling me it was ok but i felt really bad. what if theres something wrong with me? I feel awful that i cant please my boyfriend. what if he leaves me because of that? I wanted to try again later after i calmed down but he didn’t which just made me feel worse. Later that night we were texting eachother and i apologized and he said it was ok and that it was just hard for me because we had never done it but i still feel bad and of course me being me i googled it and theres diseases where your vagina involuntarily closes and stuff like that, he said that there was nothing wrong with me and that “I just think itd be better if we stopped.” i answered “for good?” and he said yes. so he never wants to have sex with me again?? we used to fool around before we had sex so i asked if we would still do things like that he responded with “i am not sure.” so i feel like he doesnt want me anymore or maybe as we were “trying” to have sex he realized that i wasnt the one.. i know it was weird talking about it with him but i still feel like i need some more reassurance he isnt the best at talking things out so i dont even know if i should mention it again but it’s really bothering me. I cant talk to him face to face since i had to go leave and go back to school 6 hours away. i love him and i think he’s the one but i cant help but think that this could be a real deal breaker.. idk if i should go to a doctor about this or if its just my subconscious thinking the worst. i dont have anyone to talk to i feel really alone lost confused and guilty
Awe hun, I’m sorry that this happened! :(
Sex is always awkward and confusing, especially the first time.
Honestly, if he really thinks that you two should stop being intimate for good, then that makes me wonder if he was basing your entire relationship around sex…which it shouldn’t be. Sex can be a great part of a relationship, but it isn’t the be all end all, there are hundreds of different things that define relationships.
I would talk with him about this, and see where he stands…if he thinks that this was the be all end all of your relationship (or at least the intimate aspect of it), then what does that say about your relationship as a whole?
Also, if you are concerned that something may be wrong…I would visit a doctor, even just to clear your mind of that possibility. :)
Good luck with everything <3
Anonymous said: Thank you, that means a lot. It's hard to explain what I feel or why though... I'm confused about why exactly I feel like this, because as I said I'm surrounded by nice people. I just always feel bad about myself because I'm too shy and feel like, I just don't fit in with people..? And I look at other people's lives and wish I wasn't so boring and dull. I don't know. I feel like it's more than that, like so much stress and dislike for myself built up that I don't know how to express.
I’m really sorry you are feeling like this :(
You should know that I deal with similar feelings myself. I’ve never had a lot of friends, I have really bad anxiety, and I’ve never really fit in.
I know what it’s like, and it sucks, and you don’t deserve to have to go through this.
I’m really sorry that I don’t know what else to say, but just know that you can always come vent to me if you need to get stuff out (I dont even have to post it if you dont want me to, just say so) :)
hang in there hun, things will get easier <3
Anonymous said: I've been feeling overwhelmingly upset lately & I don't want to talk about it with anyone because I know that my problems aren't as major as most others. I have a lot of loving people around me but I just have so many self-esteem problems that I don't know how to deal with. I cry a lot when I'm home & I feel alone and disconnected from all my friends. I also take my problems out on my boyfriend a lot, and I try to talk to him about this but it's hard for him to help me..I just need good advice:/
You can always feel free to come to me dear <3
I know it’s hard to open up to others and talk about your problems, I have the same issue…so if it’s easier for you to open up to me anonymously on the internet, so be it :) Whatever works for you.